Buttery Love

It’s Christening Day for “Libido Monday.” 

I commit, beautiful readers, to continue posting articles each Monday regarding female libido or sexually motivating facts.   Since I have suffered from a waning libido, maybe some of you have, too.

Libido is important to me because it’s important to Mr. Muscle.  Mr. Muscle has given me permission to confide that the most satisfying experience for him is when I am full of desire and reach climax.  This may be true of most men.  Hmmm, I think I may need to take another informal survey regarding this….

Does sexual intimacy with your husband always have to include yearning and orgasm?  NO.  The spiritual union of one-flesh can include different types of encounters.

Buttery Love

Toast with Heart Butter Pat

As women age, vaginal lubrication becomes a crucial factor for pleasurable lovemaking.  A dry 'depth' can make intercourse painful.  If relief is not found, anxiety toward painful future lovemaking sessions may inhibit libido.  Around half menopausal & post-menopausal women will experience dryness, at some point.

Declining estrogen levels (peri-menopause onward) are often the culprit for dryness, but stress and diet can also be a factor.  There are other medical conditions that can contribute, in particular Sjogren’s Disease and PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome).  Certain medications may also have a drying side-effect (anti-histamines/daily allergy medicine and cancer treatments, for example).  Shifting hormones because of birth control can affect younger women.  Pregnancy can affect vaginal moisture.

However, vaginal dryness does not have to be the reason to indulge in extra lubrication.  Lubrication can make a great experience, exquisite.  Remember how fun a Slip & Slide was as a kid?  Well, take Slip & Slide to the adult (& married) level.  

"A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries the bones,"  Proverbs 17:22.

First Strike Considerations

1.  Drink more WATER.

2.  Reduce caffeine.  Caffeine is a diuretic which urges your body to purge it’s water.

3.  Choose gentle hygiene products.  Do not use douche, feminine hygiene spray, or antibacterial/harsh soaps, bubble bath or bath salts.

4.  Eat one or two soy products a day (edamame snacks or tofu on your salad).  Soy has an estrogen mimicking effect.

5.  Use it or lose it.  Have you ever had a car sit for a month or two without being driven.  Then, when you start to drive it again things fall apart?  Same theory with the lady parts, consistent use will help keep the engine oiled.

Pearl's Tip of the Day:  My sister told me about this after watching it on Dr. Oz's television show regarding vaginal dryness.  It works!  Put a dab of oil on the perineum (the stretch of skin between your anus and vagina, also known as 'taint') after each shower.  The feel is exquisite.  It reminds me through the day of sensual feelings.  It has helped libido in that aspect, in addition to making the actual sexual encounter more pleasant.  The oil is absorbed into the skin and helps lubricate the inner canal, as well.

Which oil to use?  Olive oil was suggested on the show.  I have been using olive oil with orange infusion (that way I don't smell like antipasto salad).

Coconut Oil

Chip and Cherry Pepper highly recommend coconut oil for sexual fun.  Coconut oil is touted to be a cure for every disease known to man.  Of course, this is an exaggeration.  But the coconutoil website has an impressive list.  This article link confirms that coconut oil is an anti-fungal, so there might be substance to their claims.  The silky properties are extremely long lasting.  It smells great and is not drippy.  Overall, we are very pleased with it.  I may replace the olive oil with it.  
(Disclaimer:  Oils are not highly regarded in the medical community due to their ability to promote allergy, and yeast overgrowth/bacterial infections if proper hygiene isn't followed, consistent showers to remove old oil.  I have not had any problems.  Just be aware.)

Vitamin E vaginal suppositories

These can be found in health food stores and compounding pharmacies without a prescription.  It is not recommended that the oral vitamin E capsule be used in the vagina.  The oral capsules have a far greater amount of vitamin E in them (400 i.u.’s versus 30 i.u.’s in the suppositories).  There is a chance of toxicity if more than 400 i.u.’s of Vitamin E is taken daily over long term.   There is documented research that Vitamin E is beneficial for lubrication.  

Carrageenan
Carrageenan is a relatively new additive in personal lubricants and is touted as a female sexual stimulant when directly applied to clitoris.  It is made from red seaweed.  It has been used as a food additive for it's gelling and smoothing properties since the 1950's.  In addition to silky texture, it has the ability to cause inflammation (greater blood accumulation in an area) which would make the clitoris more sensitive.  There is a just right warming effect.  It's not the scary, "Oh Man, I'm doing damage" icy/hot intense feel of some of the heat lubricants we've tried.  There is some debate as to the safety of Carrageenan.  But, it has been found to be effective as an anti-viral against HPV.

There are plenty of lubricant options that can be found near the condoms in most pharmacies.  For an explanation of the different types see the link at the bottom of the page.

And NO, butter did not make Pearl's list of lubricants.  The pharmacist I sleep with, Mr. Muscle, doesn't recommend it for sexual activity or burns*.  

But, doesn’t the words buttery love  conjure up a yummy image?  Enjoy your next Slip & Slide session, beautiful ladyfish.

Chip and Cherry Pepper on Coconut Love.

Dr. Oz's information on pharmacy lubricants

*I must give a humor nod to Julie Sibert at www.intimacyinmarriage.com.

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Bless me with your thoughts and comments.  What works,  what doesn't?