"Make Love to Your Wife, Not Your Iphone"

This is an actual quote from Mr. Muscle on a Friday night at 7:00 p.m.  He was perturbed at the constant stream of data on his phone that continued after work hours.

How profound of my very hard working man to say.

(There is a difference between hard working and work-aholism.  Hard working is doing the job to the best of one’s ability, even going the extra mile, to support the family’s lifestyle.  Work-aholism is when one can’t relax off-duty and only finds value through the job.)

Men, is your sex life as active as you would like?  If not, are you making love to your Iphone (or whatever technology keeps you plugged in)?  I mean to say, are you cradling it and caressing it and typing in little messages at all hours of day and night?

Unplug from technology and plug into your spouse.  Those little messages you are typing in?  Transfer them to a sweet enticing whisper into your lovely’s shell-shaped ear (like, “you work so hard, let’s go to dinner tonight so you don’t have to cook.”).  Take that caress and move it toward the nape of your sweetie’s nectar scented neck.  Give her a neck rub that lasts as long as three commercials.

Chances are one of your lovely’s top turn-on’s is conversation.  Connecting through words is very important, but may not be easy for men.  I used to joke that Mr. Muscle only had a maximum of 600 words per day and he used 598 of them at work.

But, practice makes perfect.  He had a job shift and became a professional in business development (sales).  Words are not a problem anymore.

"Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones,"  Proverbs 16:24.

I’m tellin’ ya, if you get it right and talk with her daily….She will open up to you in a whole new dimension.  How would you like to sexually explore variety (within godly bounds…..)?  This may come to fruition if you have good communication.  Share with her what you have been feeling throughout the day, frustrations or celebrations.  Did you have an exceptionally irritating phone call?  Who was it and why did it irritate you?  Did something funny happen on the way to the office?

And ladies, it is up to you to allow him to talk without feeling judged or criticized.  Give him space to think and do and share.  You are not his mother.  You should be his sounding board.  Listen without trying to shape his behavior.

There was a time in our marriage when I wished I had been Mr. Muscle’s client, because he spoke to them so gently and intently.  But, since we practice now we’ve learned to speak kindly and listen intently to each other and not just clients.

Guys (and girls), unplug, turn off the phone, shut the computer screen, give your mate sole attention…..and a little frisky time may ensue.  Perhaps, she’ll be the client and you’ll be the salesman (*wink*)?