10 Confessions of a Sex-Renovated Wife

I stand with a wonderful cluster of like-minded marriage bloggers in promoting godly marriages (Christian Marriage Bloggers Association.)  I share their desire to empower marriages by reshaping prudish attitudes.  Sexual intimacy is only one facet of a thriving marriage but it has too long been swept under the Christian community’s taboo rug.  

See the listing at the bottom for those who initiated and inspired this posting and the links to their confessions. 

1.           I’ve always loved the many wonderful sensations of sex even if the desire temporarily waned.  This sounds ironic doesn’t it?  It was remembering how good it felt that partly motivated me to renovate my libido.

2.         Music is an important element to our trysts.   The playlist includes, Bad Company (Feel Like Makin’ Love), Ella Fitzgerald/Louis Armstrong, Bon Jovi, Star Wars Soundtrack.  (Note to self:  Princess Leia/Han Solo costumes and Star Wars soundtrack may be fun.) 

3.          I love to shock Mr. Muscle.  Even though it only happens once in a blue moon.  The last occasion involved a wine tasting in a public venue.  As he took a sip of Spain’s best, I whispered in his ear, “I’m not wearing......”  He nearly showered the whole establishment with red wine droplets.  We downed the rest of the wine samples like shots.

4.         Quickies are OK.  Showering with the husband is superfun.  Hair conditioner is versatile.

5.          Exercise helps put me in the mood (a welcome little side effect).  Sex and low libido have both inspired me to honor God by taking care of his temple.  I feel much better about myself (which may be part of the reason it makes me feel sexier) and want to ‘flaunt’ it in front of Mr. Muscle.  (Disclaimer:  This sex kitten is still a middle-aged mom who is good friends with Ms. Clairol and has twin-skin stretch marks, don’t go thinkin’ I’m anything but average.)

6.         We have a sex schedule.  It's not down to the minute.  With my libido renovation, it helps to know when we may engage and that way I’m mentally prepped.  “The peacock crows in the early afternoon” at Pearl’s house.

7.          I wish I’d made sex more of a priority when the kids were younger.  We would have made a good team, better.  I truly admire those who have young kids and continue to rock it in the bedroom by being intentional about that part of their union.

8.         I hope to raise the bar for the next generation of marriages through a healthy view of marital sex.  One time I walked out of the bedroom and was kind of cheerful (OK, maybe VERY cheerful).  My kids said to their friend, “Yeah, they did it.”  It was just matter of fact.  There wasn’t even any giggling.  They understand this is an important part of marriage.  They also have been briefed on the negative effects of pornography and adultery from us and close friends, using both personal and biblical accounts.

9.         Not a member of the mile-high club, but travel sex rocks!  Getting away from the normal routine can slap the fanny of your adventurous spirit.

10.     The spiritual nature of our sex life mystifies and comforts me.  Thank you, dear Heavenly Father, for this aspect of marriage.  There is an unseen connection that continues to link us after the literal one-flesh union.  We both, being brought to God through Jesus Christ, are thrilled that He is the head of our union and has given us this gift.

“If God is for us, who can be against us?”  Romans 8:31.

 

Kudos to, Julie Sibert (intimacy for marriage), initiator of this insightful confession-fest

J at hotholyandhumorous who spurred us on.

Lori at the Generous Wife.

Kate at One Flesh Marriage (and you can find Brad, making confessions for a husband...)

Megan at Do Not Disturb (and you can find Justin, making confessions for a husband...)

Hannah at becominghiseve.

Paul at The Generous Husband.  He has a comprehensive compilation of all the CMBA Confessions.  Thanks, Paul!