Our hearts play a huge role in our libido. Our minds play a huge role. Put our hearts and minds together and you get an overall attitude.
In 1985, Michael Scheier of Carnegie-Mellon University and Charles Carver, University of Miami, conducted a study that proved optimism could affect health. This was ground breaking for the positive psychology movement. (See the study here.)
Dec. 2012, a study conducted by Pia Aravena and associates in France shows that positive sentence structure can literally enhance physical performance. More specifically, it was action words in affirming sentences. Volunteers, while gripping a sensor, heard a variety of verbs (i.e. throw or scratch) in different sentence structures. The researchers observed increased strength on the grip sensor when words were presented in affirmative sentences. No change in strength was observed when the word was used in a negative context (i.e. don’t throw)
The theory behind positive affirmations is that through repeating and thinking positive phrases a manifest change in your physical life will happen. Does the phrase positive affirmation conjure the Saturday Night Live Skit, ‘Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley?’ Well, this study says, “Ridicule positive affirmations no more!”
Although Aravena’s French study did not specifically use positive affirmations, but only verbs in a positive context, couldn’t there be a correlation?
As the sports world grabs this tidbit to enhance their multi-million dollar teams, why can’t we low-libido ladies grab a hold of it to increase our performance?
Let’s envelope this science with scripture and see what happens!
Would you be willing to try an experiment with me? Truly, I'll be doing this right along with you.
52 Weeks of Libido Transformation
Until the end of 2013, on Thursday, I will post a scripture with an accompanying positive thought regarding libido. It will be something that you could print out (copy and paste, for now) using a half sheet of paper or less. Post it where you will see it all week but is still discreet; your car’s visor, inside your makeup bag, use it as your bookmark for the week or make it pop up in your iphone’s reminders.
This challenge is about follow-through. If you read my post of New Year’s week (see it here) I believe creating a positive libido is a function of much ACTION on your part, not just wishful thinking.
I realize that all marriages are at different places. All relationships between husband and wife have different dynamics. If you have concerns about certain aspects of your marriage, pray about them along with increasing your libido. You really can work on both issues at the same time. Don’t wait to improve your marital sexual intimacy.
Most importantly, pray over yourself DAILY incorporating the specific thoughts from our challenge.
Husbands are invited to pray over their wives and marriages with these scriptures and thoughts, as well.
“Be very careful about what you think. Your thoughts run your life,”
Proverbs 4:23, (International Children’s Bible).
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life,”
Proverbs 4:23 (King James Version).
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it,”
Proverbs 4:23 (New International Verson).
I will hold thoughts about sexual intimacy with my husband as good, pleasurable, sweet and something I want to participate in. I will hold thoughts about sexual intimacy with my husband as God-ordained and fully cementing our bond as husband and wife.