Fear isn't Sexy

This past week there’s been a convergence of pain brought to our family.  This pain has made me deeply contemplate the very basic nature of human beings.

It boils down to love and fear.  Fear keeps us from embracing the growth God sends us through difficulties.  Love allows us to see farther into the future and outside of ourselves.  Fear keeps our arms crossed and our eyes down.  Love allows us to stretch forth and look up.  Love allows us to see the Big Picture.  Fear keeps our focus on the superficial.  Love allows us to look beneath the surface.

Embracing love means we are confident about our future.  We don't know the steps to be taken or the roads we will travel.  There may be some mighty tough roads.  But, we know through God's love, that His perfect will for us is to become more and more like Him.  If becoming more and more like Him, means we go through the refining fire of hardships, so be it.  Do we like it while we are in the fire?  NO.  But, remember....

James 1:1-5, "Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides.  You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors.  So, don’t try to get out of anything prematurely.  Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.

If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father.  He loves to help.  You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it."

Fear is a perceived threat.  Threat of physical harm, threat of our social standing, threat of financial ruin, threat of heartbreak.  Threats aren’t promises.  God gives us promises.

Romans 8:31, “…If God is for us, who can be against us?”

Psalm 23:4, “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me.  Your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”

Psalm 27:1, “The Lord is my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear?  The LORD is the stronghold of my life, of whom shall I be afraid?”

Psalm 118:6, “The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid.  What can man do to me?”

What’s this got to do with my central theme of female libido enhancement?  Fear seeps into every aspect of our lives. Maybe some of us are afraid to embrace sexual intimacy fully.  Afraid to give of ourselves completely.  Afraid that sex isn’t anything more than physical.  Afraid that God will think less of us if we can revel in this kind of pleasure.  Afraid that our husband’s will expect even more of us if we embrace our sexuality.  Or, maybe we are afraid of aging and the evolving nature of our sexual energy.

Accept the challenge.  Don’t be afraid of your situation.  God is a God faithful to His promises of strength, support and healing.  Let the emotional pain roll over you like a wave.   The good news about waves, is their sets do clear out after a time.  The sea can and often does become calm and glassy.  Release the fear that the pain will last forever.  It won’t.  It will become your blessing.

Soul Surfer is one of the best movies I've seen lately that

deals with grappling fear.   I highly recommend it.  

Here's the Trailer for

Soul Surfer.