What Spurred My Thaw?

The focus of OysterBed7 is to encourage my low libido sisters.  What makes a wife low-libido?  There can be several reasons.  But, I mainly focus upon:

1.  She has low sexual desire due to physical problems.
2.  She perceives she has low physical desire due to poor relational connection with her husband, poor body image, past sexual/physical/emotional abuse, exhaustion, life circumstances, poor spiritual life.  Once these issues are understood (not necessarily healed) she may have a surge in her physical desire, again.  Remember girls, perception is reality.

Basically, for gals who struggle with physical desire (due to reason #1 or #2), the whole of life greatly affects sexual intimacy with your husband.

Thaw in the title is not to poke fun.  I melted from a lady with a very rigid mindset to one of more fluid and encompassing thoughts.  It felt good to thaw and to relax.

I am not a counselor or a medical specialist. I am a Christian low-libido wife who likes to research and figure out how I can enhance physical, emotional and spiritual intimacy with my husband.

Here’s our story:  Miserable Marriage/Magical Marriage  

The following posts are concepts that radically changed my thought process, behavior or altered preconceived notions.  Concepts here were life changing to me.  They may or may not speak to you as strongly.

Why Sex?
Swimming in the Red Flag Zone 
Walking on Eggshells or Sunshine?
Best Kept Secret to Lift Low Female Libido
Slow and Steady Still Wins the Race


  1. says

    I left a comment for you under the sex drive transformation post! I am curious does it only go up to week/key 44? Have you finished the 52 week challenge? And did you notice a change in yourself once you completed it? Have others messaged you informing you of their transformation! By the way, I love what I’m ready so far! Great revelation!

    • says

      Hi Mie Mie, thank you so much for your comment! The 52 weeks were posted throughout the year last year, I have just been negligent in transferring them all over to the permanent page. I will work on that this week. I’m sorry I didn’t respond sooner, no excuses except it’s been crazy around here. As far as your question of libido improvement. I’m assuming you are asking about my physical desire, certain weeks/keys had a more marked effect than others. Overall, I would say, yes, I did see an improvement in my physical libido.

  2. says

    Hey Bonnie, just wanted to drop by and say thank you for all you are doing. Not only women but for the marriage bed as a whole. As more and more men come to your site my prayer is that they find understanding and true knowledge of their spouse, sex and marriage.
    I have nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blog Award..I hope you do not mind. You may check out the nomination on my site if you would like to.
    God Bless.


    • says

      Stu, I am humbled and honored that you feel O7 is an insightful blog. I’m also continually amazed God has allowed me, in some small way, to help him in restoring marriage harmony. If only one marriage is affected through any of my experiences, praise God. Thank you so very much for the nomination.

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