Wanna hear a not-so-secret libido tip?
Get healthy. I know, don’t be underwhelmed. You were expecting stellar insight or at least a funny twist.
Specifically, tone up, shed pounds, eat less processed foods, get rid of soda. I say shed pounds as opposed to losing them in homage to my friend, LadyAdvo. She says she never intends to re-find the pounds, so they are not lost.
It’s the simplest of concepts.
Close Your Lips and Move Your Hips (i.e. Eat Less, Move More).
If it’s so simple, why is it so hard to follow through? Because, there are a couple more steps that many people are unaware. If you’re like me, you’ll be relieved to know it doesn’t involve a lot of willpower.
Cleanse your mind.
Lose the Guilt (usually those trips end at the fridge….)
Don’t shame yourself about your past binges and habits. You can’t shame to reclaim! You can’t motivate anyone, especially yourself, effectively through shame/guilt/fear/criticism.
Each moment has a reset button. If two seconds ago you were emotionally eating, then you have the rest of the day to make better choices. If yesterday, you decided not to exercise then walk the dogs today. Just look forward.
Be patient (don’t be hasty, even if it’s tasty)
Initially, there may be some willpower needed as you tolerate moderate hunger and achiness from a new movement regimen. Getting your body and mind synchronized for the journey takes a week or two or three. But, willpower will not be the determining factor of your success!! It’s only a small part.
When you hit the point of being rewarded by:
clarity of mind,
strength or balance improvement,
a number loss on the scales or in your waistband,
you’ll be more inclined to keep up the good habits.
Forget no pain/no gain. The truth of the matter is, “Do the gains and rewards overshadow the pain of effort?” The technical term is positive feedback loop. Are you receiving enough positive from your body and mind to withstand the negatives and sacrifices of developing a new habit?
GAINS – PAINS = Continued Motivation
Celebrate (but not with a twinkie)
Celebrating the smallest achievement is important. Gains seem enormous when we allow ourselves to celebrate. Blow bubbles or put away $10 at each celebration moment so that you can buy a new sports bra. Without a good sports bra, the gains may not outweigh the pains.
Set-Backs (don’t let them derail you)
They are going to happen, be prepared. This also goes under the heading of releasing guilt. Don’t beat yourself up. Reset the button and keep looking forward.
This past winter was brutal for me. I had successfully kept my weight off for 3 years. But, the wine tastings and the Christmas goodies started a habit that nearly made me to revert to old familiar ways. The Lord tapped my shoulder as the numbers inched up on the scales and the clothes inched smaller. Regrouping was necessary. Recommitting was necessary.
Pray when you begin your journey for guidance
Pray to be cleansed of any guilt and shame you feel regarding food.
Pray for patience (Are you thinking what I’m thinking? I’m always hesitant to pray for this, usually get ample opportunity to practice it!)
Pray for your rewards to outweigh your pains
Pray for eyes to see where you can celebrate!
Pray to be prepared for set-backs and for his resilience.
Pray you can feel God’s presence while you are on this journey.
Even though Google says the #1 health related search in 2012 was hemorrhoids, we all know that obesity is our greatest concern.
If unchecked, Obesity can lead to heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure. There has even been a correlation found between obesity and certain cancers. Obesity can lead to low libido and a general low satisfaction with life.
I truly believe that whatever you weigh or look like, you are still beautiful. And, here I am touting weight loss? I’m not writing to meet society’s standards. I’m inspired because of older friends who are now suffering from health complications due to weight.
You are not your weight! You were beautifully handcrafted by the Top Designer. Your weight doesn’t define you, only Christ defines you! Through him you will become a new creation.
As mentioned above, See LadyAdvo’s inspirational story: All In From the Inside Out.
Some of my ideas came from this great article: TheBiggest Loser is a Big Fat Lie at fitocracy.com (The Myth of Willpower)
Low Libido Husband?
Here is an interesting article I ran across at UK’s dailymail:
“…Illnesses such as diabetes (50 % or men with Type 2 diabetes are testosterone deficient), a pituitary tumor called an adenoma, Klinefelter’s (a genetic syndrome affecting one in 500 men) and chronic conditions such as renal problems and cystic fibrosis can all affect testosterone levels.
Some medications also dampen libido, such as anti-depressants and beta blockers, which are used to treat anxiety and high blood pressure. As Paul discovered, it can also be a result of illnesses such as flu or glandular fever. But, the way we now live is also playing a part. Rising obesity levels are pushing up the number of men affected by low libido…..” To read more click here.