(Erin from Mystery32 has graciously composed a guest post for you, beautiful readers. You’ll love her sweet voice regarding reconnecting with those first feelings……)
Tonight I went to a professional client dinner with my husband. Then I listened to the Backstreet Boys on the way home.
I wish I could stop there and leave you asking… huh? But that’s not nice, so I’ll continue and try to make some point out of that random statement.
I met my husband, Matt when we were just 14 years old. We really are the epitome of high school sweethearts. Dated for six years, never breaking up, never dating anyone else, were engaged at 19 and married a few months shy of our 21st birthdays.
During that time of dating, we went to 13 different dances between our two “schools” (Matt was homeschooled, but that is a totally different story). We graduated in 2005 (I know, I know… we are young) so our high school dances consisted of a whole lot of boy bands and girl pop stars singing about break ups and what “true love” was. I won’t lie; I ate those songs up. Anything considered “pop” was probably on loop in my bedroom. Before the glorious day of my iPod, I would sprint to my stereo to hit the “record” button for my anxiously waiting cassette player if one of my favorite songs came on. Yes, cassette.
Fast forward to nearly a decade later (AKA tonight, as I write this post). I’m going to a business dinner with Matt, something I’ve never done before, and wondering what in the world “little ol’ us” are doing there. I mean, we’re still 14, right? How are we married and going to business dinners? The dinner went great and we drove back separately as we had to meet at the restaurant. The only good part of driving separately is that I have total control over the music I want to listen to. So here I am flipping through the channels when I hear it… the great Backstreet Boys are back on the radio waves just as they were 10 years ago! Without thinking I easily sang along to every line to “As Long as You Love Me”. It brought me back to my bedroom in my parents house, back to daydreaming of my new boyfriend and scribbling his last name with my first (man, did all that practice come in handy!) and hoping that one day we could have that kind of love.
Are you barfing yet?
The funny thing is, I hadn’t thought about that song once in quite some time. I also hadn’t remembered those feelings and the excitement I had towards my now husband either. It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day, the stresses of life, and the list of to-do’s without thinking back to what it was like when the relationship with your husband or your wife was just starting out.
The truth is, that man that I sat next to at dinner, all dressed up in business clothes and chatting it up with co-workers, is the same boy that I began to fall in love with 11 years ago. He’s the same boy that would leave sweet notes on my car in the morning before I would leave for school, and the same boy that would stand on my parent’s porch for hours because he didn’t want to say goodbye.
Are we still lovey dovey? Absolutely! Just in different ways. Going through life and maturing in your relationship will do that. We’ve had a very blessed marriage but have gone through everything from the betrayal of good friends to the miscarriage of our first child. And while we are still lovey dovey, it’s more of a mature expression out of love and respect. We still flirt, have fun, and giggle but have grown in that flirtatious fun. But it’s still fun to think back to how it used to be.
How about you? Have you taken the time to think back to the “good ol’ days”? Maybe it doesn’t look the same as me belting out the Backstreet Boys while driving home from a business dinner (at least, I hope not… it wasn’t pretty), but what things bring back memories of you and your spouse when it was all just beginning? And do you still flirt? It may be not be doodling your name with his (cause that’s probably not necessary anymore… besides when signing receipts) but I hope flirting is something you are still keeping up. It just makes life more fun. J
As for me? It’s time to take a break from the BSB. Instead I’m going to turn on the *NSYNC Pandora station. My husband will be thrilled…
Erin blogs over at Mystery32.com and has a passion for helping marriages be all that God intended them to be. She has been married to her husband Matt for 5 years and has two “fur-babies”: Ella the cat and Kevin the dog. When not blogging, Erin loves shopping, reading, and yes, listening to 90’s pop music. Come give her a holler anytime!
Also see: Sheila Gregoire’s Wifey Wednesday: The 21 Day Marriage Challenge