Anne Atwell’s voice is here to encourage my high drive readers, and to allow low-libido wives direct insight. I think it’s very important that the sisterhood of Christian women support each other. We do that by understanding we are all different and yet we are all the same.
Anne Atwell writes this for you. She’s a high sex-drive wife who has agreed to share with other ladies who may quietly struggle with being the higher drive spouse. To read Anne’s other posts, see:
Let’s read what Anne has to say. This particular post is for all women, I think.
Hey beautiful! Yes, you.
We have a lot of messages telling us we aren’t pretty enough don’t we?
~Billboards telling us about nips and tucks
~Comparing ourselves to other women (especially ones who act or model).
~Our husbands lack of interest
~TV commercials about products to help us stay young or become more attractive.
Do you love your body?
Some might say they are not bad looking but most would definitely not call themselves beautiful or say they like their body. To those of you out there that have good self-esteem with your body, I want to extend you an e-hug.
The thing is, you ARE beautiful. The Lord sees you as beautiful. Yes! Jesus made you flawless when He died on the cross and we accepted His gift. But, most of all because the Lord made us to reflect Him. He made us in His image.
Women are strong and courageous, many are brave warriors. Yet unique to us, besides our female bodies, is a soft tender side. Men can also have this but not as intuitively. Men can be good looking but women have a certain type of beauty not found in men.
We reflect more strongly a different, less acknowledged side of the Lord. The Lord is reflected in creation, those breath taking sunsets and gorgeous flowers. He’s there gently guiding us and calling for us to pursue him. He is vulnerable as He opens his arms to His people who can hurt Him. We reflect the vulnerable side, the side that wants to be pursued. We open ourselves up to our husbands who can hurt us.
And the Lord thinks you are beautiful. Your body, personality, and the place you’re at in life. After reading a part about our identity in Christ in Wild at Heart where a man asked the Lord what He thought of him and received an answer, I prayed the same thing-a bit nervous to hear the answer. The answer came before I could finish my question.
“Beautiful. Beautiful. Beautiful.”
It was healing, letting the Lord tell me how He saw me. I want to encourage you to ask Him what He thinks of you. He wants to tell you.
Your husband might make you feel unattractive, abnormal, heartbroken, or dirty for the libido you have but you are none of those. Mourn what you don’t have, listen to what the Lord thinks of you (and remind yourself of it when you’re down), grow in your true identity, and pray for things to get better in your marriage. I can’t say your relationship with the Lord will make how things are in the bedroom (if they are bad or just meh) with your husband suddenly all sunny but it’s a source of strength.
This is the last post from me for a while. I could only speak from my own experience so I know my words probably didn’t speak to all high drive women. I hope, if anything, I helped you see that you are normal, beautiful, and how powerful prayer and self-reflection are.
Mrs. Atwell is a high drive wife living all over with her military husband and two little explorers. Her favorite hobby is reading. If you would like to connect with Anne, she can be reached at Anne5@mail.com.
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