Today, I share words of wisdom I learned in the Bible.
Biblical stories of sex always confused me when I was young.
I remember reading about: The rape of Dinah, Lot’s daughters getting their father drunk to lay with him, Samson hanging out with ladies of the night, Judah being seduced by his disguised daughter-in-law, Amnon raping his half sister, Tamar.
The Song of Solomon shed positive light on sexual intimacy. However, the imagery was difficult for me to grasp as one who was still innocent about ‘the way of a man with a woman.’
The New Testament seemed to prefer celibacy as the state of sexuality.
Then there were my teenage hormones. I liked thinking about sexual things. Why did God put this heat inside me if sex is violent and disgraceful?
I finally realized what all these stories were teaching me.
Sex is powerful.
It is so powerful that it can only be used for good when it is aligned with God’s perfect plan. That’s why sexual sin is so hard to overcome emotionally and sexual violence is the epitome of evil.
God is love and he created sexual expression. If we are to obey Jesus’ greatest commands to love God and love others as ourselves, we are going to obey his plan for sexuality.
Sex matters so much that when we ignore its power and importance in marriage, the relationship suffers. The relationship especially suffers when sex is ignored by one and is very important to the other.
What if you have low libido or have health problems and sex is difficult for you? Well, if your spouse needs to be sexual with you, you work together to figure out a solution. You don’t ignore it.
The Bible has shown me that sex is powerful and it matters. If you want to start improving your marriage’s sexual expression, but aren’t sure how, pray! That’s where I started.