If these numbers seem scary, they aren’t meant to. You have more power when you are armed with knowledge. Numbers take the mystery out of weight loss.
Everyone’s frame is different. Everyone holds weight differently.
You know those charts that give you a weight range based on your height and frame? The weight I can maintain and feel the best is actually in the obese category on this chart. To be completely candid, I am 5’3” and my personal ideal weight is 143, but I usually reside around 146. (Right now, I have no clue what I weigh. I haven’t been on a scales since Thanksgiving. I have to find some bravery soon and get on the scales.)
My definition of feeling good includes no achy knees and hips, having blood pressure in the normal range and having normal levels of blood sugar.
If losing weight is all about math, why are so many emotions involved? Because, food has meant comfort ever since mama gave me that first cookie to calm my crying.
The idea of a lifestyle change (which is code for diet) is frightening. Do I have the emotional strength to learn new coping skills that doesn’t include food?
You know why I mustered up the courage to tell you my weight? To prove that my weight is just a number. It defines me just about as much as my 48 years defines me. No one is going to answer, ‘What’s Bonny like?’ by saying, ’48.’
How does this apply to my sex drive?
It’s not so secret that your sex drive has the best chance of improving when you are in good health. Your body can devote more energy to sexual interest when there are no other major health concerns. Added weight sometimes means added health concerns.
Also, you improve your body image when you can pinpoint your true identity. Your true identity is separate from the number on the scales. Improved feelings about your body will help with confidence in the bedroom.
For more thoughts on healthy eating and lifestyle, check out Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
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