Not everyone is a chatty conversationalist. But, I believe it is very important even for the most introverted person to communicate verbally to their spouse. How can they know you if you don’t talk (and texting only counts if you’re Stephen Hawking).
Conversation isn’t a problem for all couples, but for those who struggle usually there is a chatty one and a quiet one. Here are two thoughts to help balance this out.
If you are hogging the conversation, be quiet.
The best conversations involve two people, not just one monologue. The one who talks easily needs to only talk half of the time. What is usually hardest for the talker is being patient and waiting quietly while the other begins to speak. It is OK if there is silence while the quiet one composes their thoughts. Don’t jump in just because there is dead space.
Sitting silently not only invites the quieter one to speak, but it also forces the quieter one to speak. Sometimes, it’s just easier for them to let you do all the talking. If you want to build your marriage, give the quieter one equal time.
Only positive words
Sometimes, when things are in a dark place in a marriage our worst behavior comes out. There should be no nasty, condescending tones of voice, eye rolling, or sarcasm. If you truly want to build healthy communication, you have to get rid of these responses and listen to understand with an open heart. Your spouse’s reality is different from yours, sometimes. That is OK.
Nothing says love more than kindness.
With these things in mind, I hope the following 10 sentences help you begin a lovely, insightful discussion. Because, when women with low sexual interest feel emotionally connected with their husbands, there’s a special spark and willingness to engage.
10 Christmas Conversation Starters for Couples
It wouldn’t be Christmas without…..
If you had the attention of the world for 30 seconds, what would you say?
Describe your life 10 years from now.
What is the nicest thing your spouse ever did for you?
You have a million dollars to be used for other people. How would you spend it?
What’s your favorite Christmas memory since we’ve been married?
Share a Christmas fail.
What is your favorite intimate memory of the two of us?
If you had to gain 10 pounds for your acting career, what would you eat to gain it and then how would you lose it?
If you could go back in time and witness one thing from the Christmas story in the Bible, what would it be?
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