When medical crisis, family emergencies and family conflict invade the peace of life, libido may be the first thing to disappear. The emotional and physical energy of tending to the needy, tends to drain the libido tank.
In times of heavy emotional crisis, applying the knowledge of Michael Gurian’s, ‘Intimate Separateness,’ can be helpful. Intimate separateness gives men time to process. It just means, backing off a little, ladies. Be silent. Let him go shoot skeet, play basketball, or go bowling with you or his friends. Guys don’t need the same type of emotional support females do. ‘Doing’ is a solace.
“Be merciful to me, Lord, for I am in distress;my eyes grow weak with sorrow,my soul and body with grief……But I trust in you, Lord;I say, ‘You are my God,’ ” Psalm 31: 9, 16.