Exterior Female Anatomy 101: Mons pubis, Labia Major and Minor
Do you know that there is a Jewish law that forbids husbands from staring at their wives’ genitals? They can sneak quick peeks, just no ogling. I believe it is because men find our secret parts so alluring, they can get lost in them.
A 2010 study at the Center for Sexual Health at Indiana University states only 26% of ladies look closely at their female anatomy. Most ladies don’t even know what their alluring parts look like.
Knowledge is so very important to accomplish anything, including orgasms. In order to start your way to an orgasm, seeing the real estate is important to understanding proximity and distribution. Mysteries can be frightening. Dispel the mystery. Take a look. Appreciate the beautiful blossom the Lord gave you. It will help you relax.
(As an aside, my friend, it’s important to look. My grandmother died of a vulvar cancer that could have easily been removed if she had found it early enough. Be one of the 26%!)
Every inch of you is very beautiful, ask your husband. He’ll heartily agree.
Vulva is the blanket term for all visible external female genitalia. We will discuss each petal of the vulvar flower.
Let’s take a tour of the blossom that protects the most intimate cleft.
Standing nude in front of a full length mirror, you will see the exterior where your pubic hairline begins. This is known as the mons pubis. The fatty tissue underneath is very sensitive to estrogen. It will protrude with the onset of puberty and diminish with menopause.
Farther south as two halves divide, like the crevice of a peach, you see the Labia Major. Labia means lip in latin.
The main lips, Labia Major, is comprised of fatty and connective tissue. It’s purpose is to protect the vaginal cleft that lies inside.
Deep within the labia major, underneath the fatty and connective tissues is erectile tissue. This is most important to note on our journey to orgasm. This erectile tissue fills with blood during sexual excitement to increase sensitivity!!! This erectile tissue is called bulbs of the vestibule, we will talk more about them soon.
The muscle underneath the Labia Major is very sensitive to temperature, constricting with cold and appearing more supple and full in warmth. In winter, it is good to have a space heater in the proximity of love making sessions to help blood flow.
Now, it’s time to get the hand mirror out. Really, go get it, I’ll wait.
Upon separating the Labia Major, you will notice the underside has skin that is smooth and supple. There are glands within that help to moisturize.
Also, you should see another set of petals. This delicate inner set of satiny curtains are called the Labia Minor. This set of lips is to help protect the Vaginal Vestibule underneath. The folds of the Labia Minor joins the hood of the clitoris.
Labia Minor is a little known sensitive beauty! Her other name is ‘nymphae’ which in Greek is ‘maiden’ in reference to a goddess of the fountain.
Paying attention to this delicate creature will stimulate blood flow, which is paramount to the physical side of orgasms. Labia Minor also has a large number of fluid producing glands within. You can feel the glands as sandy bits if you rub the labia between your fingers. The fluid produced helps with lubrication and also is anti-bacterial! Upon arousal, the Labia Minor becomes more sensitive and expands due to blood flow. The color may deepen and fluids become more pronounced.
The labia minor is a structure whose length varies greatly from woman to woman. Most protrude beyond the labia major. The inner lips can be the length of an iris petal or the length of a forget-me-not. This can be a surprise if you are not used to viewing your anatomy. Those with longer lips may find they enhance lovemaking.
Orgasm tip #1 start slow during foreplay and when the time is right begin massaging with coconut oil. Massage the inner thigh, and Labia Major. Then, very gently, massage Labia Minor to stimulate blood flow. Blood flow is very very important. Gentle, gentle, gentle and slow, slow, slow. Guide his touch.
OK, so you’ve had a baby or two and things are a little wonky down there. Who cares? Your mister doesn’t care. I will give you some TMI. I ripped during delivery of our first son. Things aren’t pristine. Mr. Muscle, my husband’s nickname, doesn’t care in the least. Orgasm tip #2 confidence helps you relax.
Tomorrow the tour of our beautiful blossom will continue. We will discuss the rest of the externals.
A Window Into O’s, the series:
A Window into Orgasm: Introduction
Prayer: A Window Into O’s
The Plumbing of O’s: The Origin of Orgasm Tissue
The Plumbing of O’s: Labia Love
The Plumbing of O’s: The Vaginal Vestibule
A Key to Understanding Orgasm: The Exquisite Clitoris and Company
The “O” Zones: The Delightful Urethral Sponge
A Key to Understanding Orgasm: Deep Spots
O Explore: understanding your bodies arousal
The Effort of Ecstasy
O Potential: How the Husband Can Help
Nurturing Your Gardenia: Helpful Hints on Reaching O’s